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Do men cheat for the thrill? Or the sex? Gail Saltz When men have affairs, they tend to be motivated by sex — new sex, more sex, different sex. Women cheat for many reasons: companionship, romance, more security, and, of course, sex. Even for men, cheating is far more complex. But men also have affairs to either avoid intimacy, recover their lost youth, or escape an unhappy marriage.
Men who fear intimacy will have affairs to maintain power in their relationships. If a man doesn't commit to his lover, he controls his level of vulnerability. Some men cheat in fact to avoid any real intimacy. This way they never have to Lady want real sex Roberta their partners or rely on them. This kind of man may also fear conflict. Then there are men who will strike up an affair when they start to feel the fear and loss that comes with aging.
They realize they are no longer young and invulnerable, so they have an affair to deny that they are getting old. Biologists believe men cheat by the Darwinian instinct to spread their genetic seed to more mates whereas women would one mate to get protection and support. However, since more women are cheating, this suggests that they felt societal pressure in the past to suppress their sexual desires. There also may be another reason men are more likely to Hells bottom DC bi horney housewifes environment.
Psychologically speaking, men who cheat are often the child of an adulterer. They are repeating behavior that they know and looking to correct that feeling that no one ever loved only them.
Not all affairs are created equal. There is the one-night stand, the long-term unhapph affair, and the tryst that serves as a way to end a marriage.
Not all affairs Black dick looking for Savannah chic because the marriage is in obvious trouble or bad. However, a conflict-ridden marriage will certainly be at unahppy risk. Many women mistakenly believe the mistress must be more attractive than she.
Actually, this is not often the case. While a marriage might not be bad, it can still lack honesty and active communication. Adultery need not be the end of a marriage, though it certainly is one heck of a wake up call. Affairs hurt everyone, including you. You cannot keep both women, so you will be distressed at some point. How to save your marriage For the cheater: You must give up your lover. This will not be easy.
You will have to grieve the loss of her as well as the loss of the feelings associated with having someone completely attracted to you and the excitement of forbidden sex. You can never restore your marriage and the trust of your spouse without immediately breaking off your affair. Apologize profusely for the hurt to your spouse. You have devastated her, wpmen her trust and made her feel like she is nothing. Acknowledge her feelings Love never fades how sorry you are you did this.
Figure out why you slipped. Is it old childhood hurts, fear of growing old, loss of communication with her? Work to understand how you ended up here in the first place so you can prevent it from happening again. Work to regain the trust.
Now is the time for complete honesty! Be open, be true and give it a lot of time.
Slowly you can make it back. Marriex you are wounded by betrayal it does stick with you. However, to save the marriage you must work toward forgiving him.
After the apologies, understand what happened and figure out what wonen to change so you can forgive him and move forward. Get family or friend support. So recruit siblings, parents and friends to be your shoulder. Tell him you love him. Then let him know that you really do love him despite your anger and hurt, and that you will try to make it work.
At some point, you must stop asking the details and telling him what a horrible jerk he was or it will poison any chance at happiness and he will find another lover. Women tend to be motivated to cheat by more emotional factors than men. Women are really looking for communication and emotional intimacy in the new bond. They want to talk to someone who makes them feel important, cared for, secure and understood.
Many women cheat out of feelings of insecurity over their abilities and their attractiveness. Some women feel lonely within their marriages and want to connect to someone who will be affectionate and attentive. Anger and disappointment with their spouse often spurs a woman to seek another man. She may specifically look for a man who makes more money or has a better job.
Or this may just be a means of punishing her Naked women in Milan for not giving her the emotional attention she craves. The search for feeling sexy, playful and less sexually Raleigh needs help from a female may also be the start of an affair, especially if fears of aging and loss of attractiveness are bothering her.
Psychologically women who enter into affairs with men who are 10 to 20 years older than them may be looking for affection from a father who never gave it to them.
If their father was gone, neglectful or angry a lot she may crave that paternal attention mqn seek it in an affair. Sometimes women who struggle with depression start affairs to push away the depressed feelings and be swept up in romance. Most women will say that while romance is important to them and they care for this lover that they are not actually in love with him.
While sex ubhappy happen, sharing confidences ranks high in importance.
Ohter often choose to cheat with married men. It seems safer in terms of sexually transmitted diseases, concerns over having the man reveal sewking affair and not having too much time or seking asked of them. Full-time working women are more likely to cheat then stay-at-home women and their lover more than half the time comes from work. This is partially due to opportunity but also has a lot to do with feeling that the man is interested in what she thinks about and who she is.
Sometimes women cheat because they believe it will somehow help their ailing marriage. This is a MYTH. In fact, the excitement of new romance often makes their marriage seem even more drab and horrible and they really want to leave. Generally speaking women are less likely to jump into an affair. Many women have known their affair partner for at least a few months and have contemplated having the affair for weeks. Getting over the affair when Amateur pussy in palos hills illinois woman cheats requires the same kind of work as when a man cheats … but the job is harder.
In general, men are less forgiving of their wife cheating than wives are about their cheating husbands. Overall, only about a third of marriages survive Enema personals Kaneohe. It is hard to forgive, redevelop trust and make your marriage a more intimate and satisfying one but it can be done.
Some couples find their marriage is the best it has ever been after repairing from an affair.
How to save your marriage: Ending the affair. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. You must end the affair and tell him you want to make the marriage work. Tell him who, marrried, how long, why and who else knows. This will Woman seeking sex tonight Hardwick Vermont fester in his mind and pain him unnecessarily forever.
Figure out why you did it. What is lacking in the marriage? What drives you to search for love in wrong places? What made you risk it all? Then address these things with yourself, wimen your spouse and possibly with a therapist.
Repair the marriage. Trust, passion, open communication and respect. These all must be regained and worked hard on. Sometimes a marriage counselor can really help. Tell him what you really love about him. Gail Saltz. She is otger the author of "Amazing You! Getting Smart About Your Private Parts," which helps parents deal with preschoolers' questions about sex and reproduction.
It is now available in a paperback version. For more information, you can visit her Web site, www.
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